Comments on: Why “Do your best, then relax” doesn’t work, and what does http://livethelifeyoulongfor.com/do-your-best Because the state of your heart = the state of your life Sat, 31 Dec 2011 20:36:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jeremy http://livethelifeyoulongfor.com/do-your-best#comment-1008 Jeremy Fri, 28 Oct 2011 18:20:38 +0000 http://livethelifeyoulongfor.com/?p=1133#comment-1008 Dawn, I can relate to your comments of perfectionism. Isn't it comforting to know that the Divine doesn't ask for perfection...He asks for our love:) My heart cries out for deeper connection with a loving God which leaves me in a state of "relaxation" as Dmitri explained it. Being authentically me is only possible when my "shadow" isn't controlling my emotions and thoughts. Rather, when the light, in my case, the Light of the Holy Spirit, is actively overcoming the shadows in my life and the world - I am filled with purpose, faith, joy, meaning, and mercy. Thank you for being authentically you and taking care of your heart - the temple of God's Spirit! Jeremy Dawn, I can relate to your comments of perfectionism. Isn’t it comforting to know that the Divine doesn’t ask for perfection…He asks for our love:)

My heart cries out for deeper connection with a loving God which leaves me in a state of “relaxation” as Dmitri explained it.

Being authentically me is only possible when my “shadow” isn’t controlling my emotions and thoughts. Rather, when the light, in my case, the Light of the Holy Spirit, is actively overcoming the shadows in my life and the world – I am filled with purpose, faith, joy, meaning, and mercy.

Thank you for being authentically you and taking care of your heart – the temple of God’s Spirit!

Jeremy

]]> By: Fawn Bilgere http://livethelifeyoulongfor.com/do-your-best#comment-340 Fawn Bilgere Mon, 04 Jul 2011 22:34:18 +0000 http://livethelifeyoulongfor.com/?p=1133#comment-340 This is absolutely brilliant. In my perfectionism I often flagellate myself: "Work harder! Strive harder!" before I'll open to any mercy. Not even the step-back-and-rest that would allow me to gain perspective, reinvigorate, or at the least love myself and appreciate what I've already done. And it's true--in those times of desperation, I *do* set the bar impossibly high. Dmitri, thanks for gently reminding me to be easier on myself. To open to God's love and mercy, that may power me through whatever else I have to do--or show me that my own ideas of what there is to do aren't necessarily accurate anymore! To live life in the state of Divine love from the outset--"a priori"--rather than "a posteriori,"=as a result of actions that might make me "deserving" of Love and Mercy. Isn't that what Jesus came to show us? God's Love is here FIRST! We don't have to DO anything to deserve it--indeed, it's so big and huge, there's nothing we COULD do to deserve it. Lucky us. It's already here for us. It's so difficult to remember when caught up in the rush of "getting things done." But it's true, I do get my best work done when I am acting out of enthusiasm and gratitude, rather than anxiety and self-punishment. It's difficult to remember, but oh so worth stopping to remember it. And getting the perspective that tells me when yes, I have done my best. "Well done, Fawn. Now rest." Well done, Dmitri. Thank you. This is absolutely brilliant. In my perfectionism I often flagellate myself: “Work harder! Strive harder!” before I’ll open to any mercy. Not even the step-back-and-rest that would allow me to gain perspective, reinvigorate, or at the least love myself and appreciate what I’ve already done.

And it’s true–in those times of desperation, I *do* set the bar impossibly high.

Dmitri, thanks for gently reminding me to be easier on myself. To open to God’s love and mercy, that may power me through whatever else I have to do–or show me that my own ideas of what there is to do aren’t necessarily accurate anymore!
To live life in the state of Divine love from the outset–”a priori”–rather than “a posteriori,”=as a result of actions that might make me “deserving” of Love and Mercy. Isn’t that what Jesus came to show us? God’s Love is here FIRST! We don’t have to DO anything to deserve it–indeed, it’s so big and huge, there’s nothing we COULD do to deserve it. Lucky us. It’s already here for us.

It’s so difficult to remember when caught up in the rush of “getting things done.” But it’s true, I do get my best work done when I am acting out of enthusiasm and gratitude, rather than anxiety and self-punishment.

It’s difficult to remember, but oh so worth stopping to remember it. And getting the perspective that tells me when yes, I have done my best. “Well done, Fawn. Now rest.”

Well done, Dmitri. Thank you.

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