Facilitator’s Club – The Four Phases of Facilitation Mastery

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When most people teach facilitation, they teach about the kinds of processes you can run, and the techniques you need to use to run those processes well.

That’s fine, but if you stop there, it’s not enough.

If you want facilitation mastery, you have to also look at the inner, emotional journey of learning to facilitate.

That inner journey is just as important — or even more important — than knowing processes and techniques.

If you’ve been around me much, you’ve probably heard me say this:

“Achievement and transformation walk hand in hand.”

Put another way, if you want to achieve at a level beyond which you are currently capable, you will have to experience an inner transformation.

You are already doing your best. It’s not like you can “do your best harder.”

You actually have to become the “next better version of you” who can achieve what you currently cannot.

This is true in every area in which you wish to excel… And absolutely true when it comes to mastering Carpet Work facilitation.

In this new video I walk you through the four transformational “phases” that I’ve reliably seen new facilitators go through on their way to mastery.

The big mistake most students make is they resist the phase that they are in. That causes trouble and suffering.

Once you understand what phase you are in, and move with its energy, rather than against it, developing facilitation mastery is much easier and much more fun.

Facilitator’s Club News

As of this writing (November 23rd, 2011) our club is 263 members strong!

If you like this club, and are benefitting from it, I’d ask you do two things,

  • First, participate! If you have questions or comments, put them in and I’ll respond to them — and you can also respond to each other.
  • Second, please share┬áthis club with anyone you think might benefit from it. There’s a “Share” button on this page just below, or you can just tell people to go to FacilitatorsClub.com to sign up.


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  1. Steve Norcross says:

    Very helpful for me as a facilitator to have a framework, a place to aim for during a guts session.

  2. Bruce says:

    Hi Dimitri – thanks for a thought provoking post. This is a teaching piece for me as I used to find myself often stuck at the magician stage you mention.
    I would like your thoughts on one problem I so often encounter. That is men jumping in or leading process work who seem to start off in the “mind”, those who “know” they can lead – or at least think they can – and thus, in my opinion, never connect to the person working – and often thus go on the wrong track. I see this and I would like to know if others do too – and if there are suggestions on how to deal with it.
    Keep up the good work

    • Dmitri says:

      Hi Bruce,

      You are talking about the problem of men leading who THINK they can, but, in your judgement, they cannot — or at least as well as they think. They THINK they know what the participant needs, they THINK they are listening, etc. But they don’t, and they aren’t.

      In a way, the value of being part of a “learning community” is that there are elder leaders, who have the AUTHORITY to step up and make sure things go well, no matter how these men behave. In situations where there is a “Carpet Leader,” who has the authority, it’s that person’s JOB to make sure things work well, and that person makes the call as to whether or not to step in and stop/change how things are going.

      If you are not happy with the choices the carpet leader is making, you can talk to him/her about it, but it is their call.

      This is also why I’m a supporter of the idea of having STANDARDS and CERTIFICATION for carpet work leadership… That way people who want to lead have a specific GOAL that they are going for (i.e., “be able to demonstrate you can do this, this, and THIS,”) to a certain group of people (the Certifying Body).

  3. Jeff says:


    I agree with the idea of standards and certification. I would follow the steps as defined to be Certified. I love this stuff, it is what keeps me coming back to my group and has given me the most satisfaction. It is where I have begun to grow.

    Thanks for launching the Facilitators Club. I look forward to much more.

    Jeff Finck,
    Raleigh, NC

    • Dmitri says:

      Hi Jeff,

      Good to hear from you, and thanks for the support of the idea of standards and certification. And I’m glad you are enjoying the facilitator’s club.

  4. Terry Hartwick says:

    Do you offer the 4 phases of facilitation mastery in a word document?
    I would like to create a binder with your additional facilitation works.

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