As far as commenting goes, I well remember when people first started realizing that all the stuff they had posted on AOL, or in Usenet groups, was being archived and could be searched. People were pretty shocked.

Part of the agreement we make in using the internet is that we expose a certain amount of personal/behavioral information. Blogger Horace Dedeau talks about this in the in the October 5th 2011 episode of his podcast, “Critical Path.” If you want to listen, you can download it at http://5by5.tv/criticalpath/9

- Dmitri

Your piece helped me see that actually my fear is that this feedback is telling me that my business will fail. The fear I harbour is that I don’t have what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur; that I won’t make it. If I can accept that the business may fail, but that doesn’t have to say anything about my soul, my character or my heart, the feedback doesn’t hurt any more. As you can probably hear, I’m fighting it so I’m a bit up-and-down!

What I found most difficult to understand in your piece is the relationship between FOR me and ABOUT me. Negative feedback means FOR me that my business might fail. I’m pleased to have teased that out and made the separation from the unconscious shame I was feeling. However the prospect of the business failing is a great stick for me to beat myself with. It gives me an excuse to tell myself something ABOUT me. It takes me a lot of conscious effort to stay reasonable, stay present and stay logical when hearing the FOR and not slip into the ABOUT.

Ironically, I’m starting a feedback business!

[Aside
May I make a suggestion for a topic for you to consider? I’d love to hear your wisdom on commenting and visibility. In writing this comment I’m bringing all of myself, but I’m clinging to a bit of anonymity (‘Alex’). I’m concerned about the potential impact of my children, future employers, current friends or friends I have yet to make, searching for my name in 20 years and finding these comments. I’m concerned about making myself vulnerable online, really because it’s not like a carpet where I judge this work is respected. I’m concerned about my comments being reported in the future in a newspaper or magazine, out of context. I’m concerned that I might be prohibiting or hurting my future public life by engaging now. I’m not sure if it’s just me, but this is the stuff I think about and one of the reasons I’ve never commented before.

I just want to testify that even a single session with you, Dmitri, really brings this to life. I’d encourage others to try it.

And repeated sessions have been instrumental in helping me practice and really cement the technique–remembering the right questions to ask, being able to spot the red herrings and smokescreens, and turning more deeply to that inner wisdom to open to liberation and transformation.

I’m a constantly evolving work-in-progress, and practicing this healing method on a regular basis helps to nudge me along in the right direction–sometimes to *discern* the right direction–and sometimes to catapult me ahead! My immense gratitude, Dmitri.

It is amazing how, as they say, “the message comes in many envelopes.” I think most all healers are basically pointing at the same thing. I’ll check out David Burns.